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The child is already rather frightened of own thoughts.
Stop being at war with it concerning food or wet panties.
Achieve good behavior by means of severity and sequence.
It is better, than to allow the child to make a bad act, and then to shame and reproach it for it.
The child takes threat especially hard that you stop loving him if he behaves badly.
Try to provide to the child rich, interesting life and daily society of other children.
The more it is absorbed by games and plans for the future, the less he will think of the internal fears..